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Book Title: Disconnected: Parenting Teens in a MySpace World|
Date of issue: July 1st 2007
ISBN 13: 9780801066283
The author of the book: Chap Clark
Format files: PDF
The size of the: 31.41 MB
Edition: Baker Books
Read full description of the books Disconnected: Parenting Teens in a MySpace World:I have already been laughed at for reading this book, since my two daughters are currently three and 20 months, but sometimes you just want to read something because it's interesting and relevant in the world around you. I found myself having conversations with parents of emerging adolescents and thinking about my own adolescence, and wondering how on earth I would handle it when my kids got there. My mom had recently been to a convention where Chap Clark was a speaker, and she highly recommended I read what he had to say.
I really enjoyed the message of this book, which began by arguing that adolescence, far from being only a biological change consisting of chemical shifts (hormones), is actually a cultural phenomenon that is not only relatively recent in its existence, but also incredibly fluid in its manifestations and length throughout the last several generations. The reasons are, the Clarks argue, that as a culture we have systematically abandoned our children, forsaking the former role of communities to assimilate young teenagers into the adult world. This abandonment is not defined by how much time parents spend with teens (although that is a factor), but can also include prioritizing the conformity of their behavior over the nurture of their souls.
The second half of the book walks through the (current) three stages of adolescence and outlines what types of changes take place, the way they may be manifested, and how parents must themselves respond to develop their children both spiritually and relationally. While psychological and anthropological research are major components of their arguments, the Clarks are also very careful to be biblical, and place a high priority on spiritual formation in adolescents. They also reject the idea that parents can be the "all in all" in nurturing their children, and prefer that we return to an earlier model (e.g. Bible times) of community-based parenting, selecting a group of "soul mates" to share in one another's lives.
The language of the book was not at all polished--I stopped counting the split infinitives and exclamation points early on. I didn't even particularly care for the title, the sub-title, or the picture on the front. It is true that parents cannot assume that their children are experiencing the same childhood they did. However, people who pick up this book are most likely already depressed about the state of their relationships with adolescents, and the front cover misses the opportunity to say that there is hope. Also, MySpace is going to be yesterday's news pretty soon. I'm a Facebook girl myself (and I absolutely REFUSE to Twitter!). :)
Those nitty-gritties notwithstanding, I am thankful I read this, and would recommend it to parents of adolescents, or even those who interact with adolescents a great deal in ministry. There is a lot of understanding and patience required to usher a young person into adulthood today, and we can all use a good, biblical helping hand.
Read information about the authorChap Clark (PhD, University of Denver) is professor and chair of the youth, family, and culture department at Fuller Theological Seminary, where he also directs the Student Leadership Project and is coordinator of Fuller Studio. He is on the teaching team at Harbor Christian Center church in Gig Harbor, Washington, is president of ParenTeen, and works closely with Young Life. Clark has authored or coauthored numerous books including Hurt 2.0 and Sticky Faith. Follow him on Twitter @chapclark.
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